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Melting Into Happiness

Today’s theme: Melting & Happiness

 

 


Be Melting Snow

Totally conscious, and apropos of nothing, you come to see me.
Is someone here? I ask.
The moon. The full moon is inside your house.

My friends and I go running out into the street.
I’m in here, comes a voice from the house, but we aren’t listening.
We’re looking up at the sky.
My pet nightingale sobs like a drunk in the garden.
Ringdoves scatter with small cries, Where, Where.
It’s midnight. The whole neighborhood is up and out
in the street thinking, The cat burglar has come back.
The actual thief is there too, saying out loud,
Yes, the cat burglar is somewhere in this crowd.
No one pays attention.

Lo, I am with you always means when you look for God,
God is in the look of your eyes,
in the thought of looking, nearer to you than your self,
or things that have happened to you
There’s no need to go outside.

Be melting snow.
Wash yourself of yourself.

A white flower grows in quietness.
Let your tongue become that flower.

~Rumi

 

 

 

 

How To Be Happy
(Part I)

If we want to know how to be happy, we need to know what makes us unhappy. Most would say that’s simple. High taxes, tons of bills, too many responsibilities, not enough vacation, money shortage, that’s what makes us unhappy right? Not exactly.

The Real Cause of Suffering

We humans try to stabilize what keeps changing. We hold onto fleeting pleasures. We try to avoid threats. We run endless scenarios in our minds, like a continuous movie theater playing non-existent stories about stabilizing our constantly changing lives, avoiding future dangers, and grasping at good experiences. Animals don’t have complex minds that run endless stories. But we do. We worry about the future, regret the past, blame ourselves for the present.

Rick Hanson, in The Buddha’s Brain, says “We get frustrated when we can’t have what we want, and disappointed when what we like ends. We suffer that we suffer. We get upset about being in pain, angry about dying, sad about waking up sad yet another day. This kind of suffering – which encompasses most of our unhappiness and dissatisfaction – is constructed by the brain.”

This suffering is made up! How ironic. The very same organ that is trying to protect us is also generating our suffering. But if the brain is generating suffering itself, that means it also can be the cure.

The Cure

According to a very wise teacher who lived about 24 centuries ago, the cure comes from “Cooling the fires of greed and hatred, to live with integrity. By creating a steady mind through concentration and to see it’s confusions directly. And to develop liberating insight.”

Another way to express the cure is through three things – virtue, mindfulness, and wisdom. That’s it. That simple.

What is Meant by Virtue, Mindfulness, and Wisdom?

Virtue is controlling your actions in a natural way. Rick Hanson would say “Virtue relies on the bottom-up calming from the parasympathetic nervous system and positive emotions from the limbic system.” Virtue is most often tested in relationships, the perfect experimental laboratory for virtue. If the brain states of empathy, kindness and love can be nurtured, you will kick major butt in the virtue department.

Mindfulness involves the skillful use of both your inner landscape and your outer life. “Since your brain learns mainly from what you attend to, mindfulness is the doorway to taking good experiences and making them a part of yourself.”

Wisdom is another word for good common sense. It’s finding what is the true cause of problems in your life and debugging them. If you understand the truth of suffering, you will let go of the things that hurt yourself and others. It will be easy to do this once you have a clear understanding.

How Do I Do This?

Easy. Come back next Thursday to Zen of Water and we will continue the exploration of virtue, mindfulness, and wisdom using concrete examples, tips, and tricks. We will learn how to work directly with the circuitry of the systems in our brains to become fine tuned happiness machines. There is a way to find peace and happiness in your life. It just takes a little practice and being on the right path. Stop by next Thursday for the continuation of our discussion.

Please leave comments and feedback below and I will publish the questions and bring solutions in next week’s discussion.

Thank you for stopping by. Have a wonderful peaceful and happy week.

 

Genoa Italy:

Venice, Rome, Milan, and Florence are of course the most known and admired towns in Italy. When moving to north-western Italy (Milan, Turin) it is nevertheless absolutely worth staying for a couple of days or a weekend in Genoa. The city is a good base to explore the Italian Riviera and world famous places like Portofino and the Cinque Terre.

Paolo Coelho wrote: “Among the marvels of Italy, it will take some digging to find the beauties of Genova, but it is worth visiting it. I remember walking there with a friend, when she suddenly said: “Let’s stop for a bit. I can’t stand this orange color!””. The fact is the more you stay the more you will enjoy and appreciate the town. A place where you discover daily new surprises, even if you stay for years.

15 Comments

  1. WOW! I absolutely love your short film… your smiles are infectious, the landscapes invite me to daydream… It’s so awesome… Thank you God for Michele and Andrew 😀

    L’Italia è un paese meraviglioso!! Never been there but I want to go. JC went to Venice and Verona a couple of times… He loved those places… and he has eaten authentic pizza… how lucky is he!!

    Oh my friend, what I fear the most is uncertainty… I let that fear trapped me some years ago. I sank into despair… I hardly remember what happened beetwen December 2009 – December 2010 but I found myself and rose again like a phoenix… I learned the lesson… I still don’t like uncertainty… but my army of Angels and I are ready to fight back…

    Great post, Andrew! I’m ready to take notes 🙂

    STILL YOU – Kashy Keegan

    You feel secure
    But before you know life throws you right off course
    You’re led astray
    And you feel you lose yourself along the way
    Life threatens to break you
    It forces you to know who you really are
    But through it all
    One truth remains the same

    You’re still you
    Though we all lose our way here sometimes
    But you’re still you
    Your soul will return and you’ll find
    You’ll have the answers
    Just let your own truth be your guide
    You’re still you
    Still you
    And you’re gonna be alright

    You open your heart
    And before you know love’s taken all you got
    You feel used and abused
    And you’re left to find the self respect you lost
    Love threatens to break you
    It forces you to learn to love yourself
    We lose our way
    Only to find ourselves again
    But one truth remains

    You’re still you
    Though we all lose our way here sometimes
    But you’re still you
    Your soul will return and you’ll find
    You’ll have the answers
    Just let your own truth be your guide
    You’re still you
    Still you
    And you’re gonna be alright

    All the pain hasn’t been for nothing
    You’re growing stronger with every step
    And every lesson learned is wisdom earned
    On the path we choose to take
    We may never find all the answers
    And feel lost in the wilderness
    But as bad as it seems
    Just hold on and you’ll see
    That it’s all just been a test
    So just remember

    You’re still you
    Though we all lose our way here sometimes
    But you’re still you
    Your soul will return and you’ll find
    You’ll have the answers
    Just let your own truth be your guide
    You’re still you
    Still you
    And you’re gonna be alright

    https://soundcloud.com/kashykeegan/still-you

    • Thank you Julie! We feel the same about you! We wish there were more Julie Bu’s in the world. Any way you can clone yourself?? 🙂

      • heh-heh… 🙂

  2. this is a great read. learning to work WITH pain is a virtue in itself, regardless of emotional, physical, anguish, etc. If we can go inside our minds when we feel pain, relax and flow with it – turn on some steven halpern relaxation music, do some biofeedback, and breathe into the pain we can withstand more than we ever knew possible.

    if we think we have pain, look at history – the holocaust survivors inspire me so much. they suffered everything. yet, how did some survive it? those are heroes. they know what we all should do each and every minute. take it a minute at a time. eat that one piece of bread slowly. drink that one cup of water cautiously as if it is our last drops…. get up and move when possible, even when bed-ridden one can be rolled side to side. Massage yourself constantly. work on your hands and feet for reflexology every day. Think of survivors and study their lives.

    An excellent book on surviving is : CONVERSATIONS WITH MYSELF BY NELSON MANDELA. write a conversation each and every day. If you have no one to converse with, you do have a pencil and paper. you can make paper from the bark of your own trees. then, using nature – you become connected again. the simplicity of on piece of bark, connects you again to mother earth.

    Let the world heal you.
    Drew, you write conversations to yourself in the zen of water. and, they guide and lead you to far away places in Italy. we can all go there in our minds. The human brain is an incredible organ. Its resilience astounds me. New dendrites and connections between dendrites are going on each day. When they analyzed Einstein’s brain they found that he had more dendrite connections than the normal human. We can increase these connections and strengthen them daily as Einstein did. It is our choice. all of it….
    me ke aloha pumehana, dr. spencer

    • Thank you Karyn! Great book recommendation, conversations with Myself by Nelson Mandela. “Journals kept on the run during the anti-apartheid struggle of the early 1960s; diaries and draft letters written in Robben Island and other South African prisons during his twenty-seven years of incarceration; notebooks from the postapartheid transition; private recorded conversations; speeches and correspondence written during his presidency—a historic collection of documents”. Great man. You stay safe out there in paradise. But catch some great waves too. Thanks for the picture. I repost the link here to share it with our readers. 🙂 Thank you –

      http://www.facebook.com/photo.php?fbid=560545793959801&set=a.531144650233249.140797.530583663622681&type=1&theater

    • I bought yesterday “Conversations with myself” 🙂

      Mahalo 🙂

  3. :-))))))))))))))))
    Watching “Melting Into Happiness”, all but laughter and lightness fade away, and heart and mind become full with the happy knowing that there is true love and friendship. Thanks for this wonderful uplift! All will change and fade away, but turning towards this knowing of love can nourish us right now and in the nows to come 🙂 Looking forward to next Thursday Amigo ~

    • Thank you Will & Gem!!! You are both loved by many people, including us. We hope some how in the near future we can spend more time with you. Maybe we need to move north to see the rare but beautiful species, the beautiful graceful Willus McCoyus and the amazing wonderful Gemmius McCoyus. They are a rare species of human. They don’t make them like you guys anymore. We are blessed to know you and share our lives with you. Here is the video fly over of the amazing scenic Double M Ranch to show our readers. We wish you love and happiness, and wish we were with you –

      http://vimeo.com/45487780

  4. This is so freakin’ sweet. I adore you guys and the love you share. You are each amazing in your own right…together you are a power team! The message that you are sharing is so important.

    • Thank you Sarah! You continually inspire us. We loved meeting you. And we can’t wait to follow the young rising star called Sarah. We believe in you!

  5. Thank you Will & Gem!!! You are both loved by many people, including us. We hope some how in the near future we can spend more time with you. Maybe we need to move north to see the rare but beautiful species, the beautiful graceful Willus McCoyus and the amazing wonderful Gemmius McCoyus. They are a rare species of human. They don’t make them like you guys anymore. We are blessed to know you and share our lives with you. Here is the video fly over of the amazing scenic Double M Ranch to show our readers. We wish you love and happiness, and wish we were with you –

    http://vimeo.com/45487780

    • Great memories Amigo! Our feelings are same …we love you and Meesh and value any time together. Here at ZenofWater, we get to enjoy a bit of your nectar ~

      • So glad you stop by. Miss you 🙂

  6. Thanks for sharing Karyn, Will & Gemma, Sarah, Andrew… 🙂

    • Hey Julie, you are a rock star in my book! Writes these great articles, great comments, and even individually thanks our readers. You rock rockstar 🙂

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